Your colleague asked how your weekend went

Your colleague asked how your weekend went. It was fine, you said. And this wasnt the first time he asked that question.You tried to sound convincing, as you rather not reveal the real score. You were still living with your folks (and you havent saved enough for your own place). You were anxious about the upcoming week. (A bit.) And you didnt have any plans for the next weekend. You dont want to be looked at as incompetent, yet you dont want to be one of those people who dont have a life. You would hate it if your colleagues pitied you. Alas, your weekend could define you.If youve been working for years, even a year or two, then you would learn to value weekends. Youll even look forward to them. No need to be ashamed about it, as youre not the only one. Some will consider loafing as guilty pleasure, while others will binnensee it as a sign of reaching old age. But were veering off the subject. You imagined the other responses to the question, which would prompt your colleagues to app raise you. Unless youre active in social media, be prepared to be judged. Ignore the comments if you want. Look at the bright side, though. You can learn a few things. Here are some possible answersNothing special. You dont want to know. It can mean two things. Youre concealing something, and youre being defensive about it. You may even deny about it, but think again. What is there to hide? If you happen to live with your mother, then tell them about your petty arguments. (It will be a hint that youre looking for a place of your own.) It its the pressure at the workplace, then dont think too much about it. (Be an optimist.) If its an uneventful weekend, then theres nothing wrong about it. A long sleep might make you more than ready for the next working week.You met your friends. It will be good if you did arrange a meeting with your pals, but something might be wrong if youre asked for details. It may have turned out that you chatted with them, even commented on the photo(s) they po sted on Facebook. (And your colleagues werent online during the weekend.) You havent seen your friends for some time because youre a workaholic. You dont want to admit it to your colleagues, as it might give them a wrong impression of you. Nothing wrong if you tell the truth without sounding bitter (or defensive) about it. Its your life. Youll get along in the workplace.You watched a movie. Youre free of responsibility, which can be a good thing. (Youre young, so nothing to be guilty about it.) You have interests, which would pique your colleagues curiosity. (They will find you interesting, and you might be flattered.) You may have an addictive habit, which you dont want them to know. And you should.What if you had a holiday? Your colleagues will be green with envy, and you have photos (posted on Facebook and Instagram) to prove it. Nothing like being the center of attraction.

As a Software Engineer, Choosing This Type of Company Made All the Difference Heres Why

As a Software Engineer, Choosing This Type of Company Made All the Difference Heres Why For those of us who want to make an impact on the world through ur careers, finding work within non-profit organizations may seem like the most logical path. But for Sherry Xu, a San Jose, California-based software engineer, her idea of what making an impact could look like came to take on a slightly different form.I stumbled upon computer science when a friend of mine showed me a hackathon project of a bracelet that could potentially detect seizures and alert emergency medical services, Xu recalled. I thought it was amazing, and was absolutely floored that someone could bring something new to life like that, which could potentially benefit a lot of people, in just a couple of days with some code.It was shortly after this that Xu became completely immersed in computer science, a path that ultimately led her to working Cisco, a worldwide leader in IT, networking, and cybersecurity solutions.Recent ly, Xu shared with Fairygodboss what the day-to-day of life pursuing this mission looks like, as well as her No. 1 piece of career advice to women who want an impact-driven career like here.What is your title and department?Im a software engineer within the Internet of Things here at Cisco.Can you walk us through how you came to the role, and to this line of work broadly?Ive always loved challenges and creating things from the ground up. Growing up, I wanted to be a doctor so that I could help improve the lives of others. I wound up working the graveyard shift as an emergency medical services responder in ambulances while studying at university. It was very rewarding helping people, but it wasnt a career path that allowed me a lot of freedom to innovate and be creative. I stumbled upon computer science when a friend of mine showed me a hackathon project of a bracelet that could potentially detect seizures and alert emergency medical services based on the detected movements. I though t it was amazing and was absolutely floored that someone could bring something new to life like that which could potentially benefit a lot of people in just a couple of days with some code.Sherry Xu, software engineer at Cisco.After that, I became immersed in computer science. I later went on to hold several leadership positions in the oldest and most prominent computer science organization at university and served as a student voice to the computer science department. I planned and hosted numerous hackathons, tech talks, and got involved in many developer communities. I also worked with an amazing group of peers to launch the first of many iterations of the worlds largest collegiate hackathon, CalHacks.I now work as a software engineer at a wonderful company that gives me ample opportunity to be creative in not only my work projects, but also outside of my day to day work. I often build side projects to display at conferences and have been able to demo and speak about my work in fr ont of different audiences. Im thankful of the many opportunities that I have been given up to this point in my career and look forward to whats aheadWhat is an accomplishment that you are proud of?Im proud of starting new organizations and stepping up to leadership roles in existing organizations Being a cofounder of multiple organizations that flourished in my university and helping bring people with similar passions together has been such a rewarding and unique experience. As a child I was quite introverted and quiet, I never thought I would actively enjoy speaking in front of crowds or doing presentationsWhat is a challenge that youve faced and overcome?A big challenge that Ive struggled with and am still working on improving on is taking risks. Ive always been afraid of failure and that has caused me to miss out on fantastic opportunities both in my personal life and my career. Thanks to wonderful mentors and inspiring colleagues that Ive met throughout my college and professio nal life, Ive slowly been more comfortable challenging myself to do things that are a stretch for me.What is the 1 career tip youd like to share with other women who want to have successful careers like you?I would encourage other women to not be afraid to attempt things that they may perceive outside of their abilities or are uncomfortable doing It sounds clich but I do feel like a lot of the time I see many talented women unwilling to try for opportunities due to uncertainty or fear of failure. Advocating for myself and really taking advantage of the opportunities that came up helped me greatly to get where I am today. I want to encourage women to really advocate for themselves more and not pass up opportunities due to fear or uncertainty of their abilities.Why do you love where you work?I love my job because of both the cutting-edge technology stack that we are using and because of the people. During my time at Cisco, Ive met many amazing people that I have been blessed to learn from and work with. Ive been thankful for the ample opportunities to represent the company at conferences, school, and talks. My colleagues have inspired me to try different hobbies and have definitely encouraged me to grow by doing things outside of my comfort zone. Ive made incredible friends and have inspiring mentors I am truly grateful for all the kindness and encouragement that my colleagues have given me--Fairygodboss is proud to partner with Cisco.